I have moments when I doubt myself. And it's not the "Maybe I should have bought the 4 ply toilet paper instead of the 2 ply." kinda doubt. No, it's the existential "WhoamI", "Iammessingupeverything", "WhyamIeventrying" kinda doubt. People like strong people, people who know what they want and who stand up for things they believe in. I do too. But in those moments, I am not one of them. In those moments, I envy them. In those moments, I don't feel confident. In those moments, I am vulnerable. In those moments, I feel like I am failing. In those moments, I feel unworthy of my daughter.
I am her role model, her guidance, her rock. And yet, I am not perfect.
Here is the thing: I don't need to be perfect. "Those moments" teach her, that it is OK to be weak. That it is OK to feel sad. That it is OK, to feel like giving up. That it is OK to have a bad day.
It is important to teach our children that with every doubt, there is a chance. A chance to pause and re-think our actions and decisions. To feel all these emotions we might bury in our busy lives. In a world of "better, faster, farther", we need to be reminded that sometimes, when we feel like we can't keep up, it is important to just stop and be who we are. At that very moment. No matter how miserable. To reflect. To find a way back to our beliefs. To gather strength and motivation for the things to come.
It really takes strength to face ourselves in a moment of doubt. To acknowledge that we don't always have things under control and that we are not our best self all the time. It takes courage, to look at our imperfections and to study our ugly side.
Every time we have those moments of doubt, we get to know ourselves a little better. They sift out our priorities. Help us focus on what matters to us. We need to be accepting of these moments and trust that we will overcome them. That our children can overcome them, with our help if needed.
Let's embrace these moments for what they are... a sign of being human.
I am her role model, her guidance, her rock. And yet, I am not perfect.
Here is the thing: I don't need to be perfect. "Those moments" teach her, that it is OK to be weak. That it is OK to feel sad. That it is OK, to feel like giving up. That it is OK to have a bad day.
It is important to teach our children that with every doubt, there is a chance. A chance to pause and re-think our actions and decisions. To feel all these emotions we might bury in our busy lives. In a world of "better, faster, farther", we need to be reminded that sometimes, when we feel like we can't keep up, it is important to just stop and be who we are. At that very moment. No matter how miserable. To reflect. To find a way back to our beliefs. To gather strength and motivation for the things to come.
It really takes strength to face ourselves in a moment of doubt. To acknowledge that we don't always have things under control and that we are not our best self all the time. It takes courage, to look at our imperfections and to study our ugly side.
Every time we have those moments of doubt, we get to know ourselves a little better. They sift out our priorities. Help us focus on what matters to us. We need to be accepting of these moments and trust that we will overcome them. That our children can overcome them, with our help if needed.
Let's embrace these moments for what they are... a sign of being human.